ALEC Baldwin has written a practical guide to divorce for men. The actor has put his bitter court battle with actress Kim Basinger behind him by writing A Promise To Ourselves: A Journey Through Fatherhood And Divorce. But he hopes not to reignite his war of words with his ex-wife, who he once described as 'dark and manipulative' and 'a thoughtless pain in the ass'. 'I took care to be very kind and measured in dealing with her,' he says. 'It is not a personal memoir, and I have no desire to settle some score with her through this. In fact, I was originally reluctant to write this book for that very reason.' The Baldwins married in 1993 and separated 7 years later. During the mudslinging over custody of daughter Ireland, now 13, Kim, 55 called Alec, 50, a 'tinpot tyrant and bully'. 'I didn't want to be perceived as stirring the pot or calling attention to any of that again,' he tells Weekend. 'However, I do find the situation disgraceful and I wanted to say so.' A Promise To Ourselves: A Journey Through Fatherhood And Divorce is published on 23 September.                               - NOW